Archive for April 17th, 2007


Am I not alone?  As I read More.com’s article, Fixing the World After 40, I am captivated by the words:

“I came of age in the do-good 1970s, when we believed we would change the world by raising our consciousness, caring for the environment, or joining the Peace Corps. Some of us actually followed through — until we had to get serious about tuition repayment or the rent. Others chose the traditional helping professions of nursing and teaching right off the bat. I admired these women but was dead set on business, ready to work like a dog to prove I could be as big a breadwinner as any man. I figured I’d volunteer when I retired.


I’m still working full tilt, and although I’ve served on the boards of nonprofit organizations, I find it easier to donate money than time. But I’ve noticed an emerging trend: Many successful women are deciding at midlife to redirect their energy from a career to a cause. What is it about turning 40 that goads us to fulfill our early idealism? Is it that we can afford to be more generous when we have more money in the bank and kids ready to fly? Or do we feel time is running out and race to (as I heard one wag put it) “pad our obit”?


My bet is that by now, we’re ready to make our lives matter more, either by committing ourselves wholesale to an issue we’re passionate about or fitting small acts of charity into our busy lives. These MORE readers prove it’s never too late to share the love.”

While I was raised by a somewhat affluent family because my father had worked hard to make sure all four of us kids had what we wanted and dreamed for, which has had to have been difficult with each us having differing dreams and ambitions.  For instance, my sister had told me one night when we were laying in our beds in our bedroom that, “I am going to marry someone so that I can have steak and mushrooms every day.”  She married an attorney and could quite possibly have her dream fulfilled.  Another sister of mine wanted to be a teacher and she has not only fulfilled her dream, but volunteers her time at a few organizations and runs in marathons.  My brother had told me that, when he was four years old, “I am going to design a car that runs on air.”  While I don’t think he has done quite that, he has been quite successful in his life with work, travel and his friends.  With him being just shy of being the most genius man on this earth, it would not surprise me if one day, he also achieves that dream.  There is still plenty of time, he is in his 30’s; he has a lifetime to enjoy all the achievements and mark on this earth that he has made thus far.  I will never cease to be amazed by my siblings’ determination to fulfill what they have wanted to achieve thus far.

I, too, came of age in the ’70’s; I had my own dreams and ambitions, although my journey has not be quite the simply and paved road.  I have had to jump across many divets and take many detours along the way; however, I keep gravitating towards ways that I could help others.  While I had to keep working hard at bringing home some income as a single parent for most of my daughter’s life, I couldn’t help but find some time in the day to try to help others in some form or fashion.  My mother would get frustrated with me as she would remind me, “You can’t help everyone.”  I would look at her puzzled and think, “Why not?”, although as I get older, I realize that I truly can’t help everyone.  This became clearer too as I try to fixed the marriages I had with abusive men.  I kept thinking that I saw the good in them and I could help them shine; it is oftentimes I hard lesson to learn that the only one that one could truly change is oneself and take that knowledge to empower myself to move forward throughout the years.

That still doesn’t change the aspect of my desire to help others and make a difference in this world through whatever steps I can do to change the world to a more peaceful environment, including the many hours I have volunteered as an advocate for children through CASA and GAL, for the elderly through Family Eldercare, for the victims of domestic violence, and for the victims of crimes through being a Victims’ Advocate (and so much more).  Sometimes, I feel like a “Who” in “Whoville” waiting for “Horton” to finally hear me; however, it is the thanks that I have received along the way from folks that I have somehow made a difference in their lives that keeps me fueled to continue against whatever odds I have had to cross.

The difference between trying to help another person to change and making a difference in the world to change things for the better is that one is providing the tools for that person to change.

In the meantime, I am relieved to see that there are others who haven’t been necessarily vying for that $50,000+ job and have settled our lives in the hopes of making a difference in the world, even if that means a smaller income to live upon.  Some day, I will have achieved most of my dreams and will reward myself with a small home in the country built in accordance to my vision; in the meantime, I strive to make, at least, one person smile and feel better about themselves each day.  If I accomplish that, at the very least, I will have fulfilled my dream each day.  I’ll keep hoping and praying that “Horton” finds this “Who” in “Whoville” and a thousand prayers to bring peace to this world.

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There are times that we all wonder whether or not we are doing the right thing in the world by trying to help others survive when we have such homeless and poverty issues to be resolved here at home as well. After all, many would say, shouldn’t we fix what is wrong in our own backyard before we try to fix what is wrong in other people’s backyards?

In my email this morning, I have received an email that is very profound with a link to an unknown soldier’s/soldiers’ two songs posted on a web page. I am sure that you will appreciate the songs as they are both very heartwarming; therefore I am passing the link to you as well. Be forewarned that both songs upload very fast and you will also want to view the slides going with the songs as well.

Sit back and be moved…

One Voice (ends with the words on the slide “In time hopefully… …Peace will prevail”)

If I die before you wake

Thanks be to the people who made it possible for us to see these slides and hear these songs and the all the heroes behind them.

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This week, so far, has been a bit with some craziness — Virginia Tech massacre allegedly due to a domestic violence/obessesive ex syndrome issue. Abortion/Pro-life folks coming to a head on some of those issues. Brought up some YouTube domestic violence videos and posted them under the DOMESTIC VIOLENCE tab for you to review. Some positive outcomes include Lawrence Wright receiving his Pulitzer Prize on his 9/11 non-fiction book and a re-discovery of a FREE HUG project which projects a healthy attitude on things. Why can’t we all just get along?? Thank goodness for the volunteers bringing cheers and support along the way; be sure to thank a volunteer this week!  Check it all out.

Worldly Inquiring Mind “iWIM” 😀 ›

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can’t we all just get along???

This YouTube FREE HUGS project is interesting. What a great idea, but do we really have to hold up a sign to get a hug???


More about the FREE HUGS project….

Sometimes, a hug is all what we need. Free hugs is a real life controversial story of Juan Mann, A man whos sole mission was to reach out and hug a stranger to brighten up their lives.

In this age of social disconnectivity and lack of human contact, the effects of the Free Hugs campaign became phenomenal.

As this symbol of human hope spread accross the city, police and officials ordered the Free Hugs campaign BANNED. What we then witness is the true spirit of humanity come together in what can only be described as awe inspiring.

In the Spirit of the free hugs campaign, PASS THIS TO A FRIEND and HUG A STRANGER! After all, If you can reach just one person…

Music by Sick Puppies. (Visit http://sickpuppies.net or http://myspace.com/sickpuppies for the music)
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PS. The response to this video has been nothing short of overwhelming and touching. Hugs to every single one of you who messaged. There has been thousands of emails from all over the world by people seeking to participate in the Free Hugs campaign and asking for permission. You do not need permission. This is the peoples movement, this is *your* movement. With nothing but your bare hands you can make THE difference.

Imagine all the people.

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Press/media contact:
paul.stepanek@oninternational. com”

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